Assisted Living Definitions, Terms, Questions:

  • What is “Assisted Living?”

    Assisted Living is a choice for people of senior age to live independently while receiving assistance with their daily activities and needs. These “everyday tasks” can be any number of things. Some elderly people may only need help with difficult tasks while others may have health problems that require twenty-four hour assistance from a nurse or caretaker.The situation for each individual is unique, and The Lake Shore Assisted Living Home will evaluate and ensure that your friend or family member is getting the care that they need, twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week.The Lake Shore Assisted Living Facility’s approach to Assisted Living Care is to promote independence and socialization as well as assistance in activities of daily living for those who may require assistance.

    What is provided?
    Every living situation is unique. Some residents may need assistance with many everyday tasks such medications and bathing, while others may need the social aspects of what Assisted Living can offer. Residents of an Assisted Living Facility are offered three meals a day and snacks, housekeeping and laundry services, and nurse’s aid supervision twenty four hours a day. This assistance can be with bathing, dressing, reminders for meals and activities and medications. Social interaction is a very important part of our Assisted Living facility.

  • Can Assisted Living communities be fun?

    Of course they can – and they should be! It’s always nice to be around people who share common ground with you. People enter into assisted living situations for a variety of reasons, but one overall reason is for an improved lifestyle.

    The Lake Shore Assisted Living offers that very thing. People living at The Lake Shore enjoy the pleasant company of others who have similar situations. Most importantly, they share in the variety of entertaining activities offered. Whether it be watching a favorite movie together, enjoying a cocktail at the bar, breathing the fresh spring air off of beautiful Lake Ronkonkoma, fishing, shopping or any of the other great activities The Lake Shore offers – residents enjoy the peace of mind of our services and the joy of each other’s company.

    In many ways The Lake Shore Assisted Living can be more like a vacation than anything else. Delicious meals, great service, gorgeous views and loads of fun to be had – there is no doubt that life at The Lake Shore is a wonderful and relaxing experience.

  • Will I have privacy if I live in Assisted Living?

    Of course! We understand the concern many people have when considering moving into an Assisted Living residence with maintaining their privacy. Many people expect there to be a lack thereof considering how many residents there will be sharing the facilities in a residence. You of course will have the privacy you request and require when you need it, and when you want to share time with your family or friends you’ll have that too!

  • How is assisted living paid for?

    The resident and their families typically pay the cost of assisted living care themselves. However, depending on the guests health insurance program and long-term care insurance, some or all costs may be reimbursed. Government aid has been limited for assisted living so we recommend you look into your insurance coverage and plan accordingly.

  • What is the difference between assisted living and a nursing home?

    The number of people living in nursing homes is steadily decreasing as more and more choices become available for seniors who need assistance. Assisted living facilities gives seniors who need a little help, but over all can care for themselves, a very attractive alternative to moving into a nursing home.

    Assisted living is set up to cater to the needs of individuals who need assistance with general daily activities such as bathing, dressing, and grooming, rather then individuals who need ’round the clock 24-hour nursing care. Assisted living facilities also pay greater attention to personal privacy then most nursing homes. This is usually a concern of most residence; at The Lake Shore you will be given all the privacy you need and want.

    Individuals in assisted living are typically more independent and capable. They are able to take part and enjoy daily activities, usually with no assistance at all. Nursing home residence need a great deal more help, care, and attention.

How to Talk to Loved Ones About Assisted Living:

  • How do I know if my elderly friend or family member needs Assisted Living?

    From our experience, which is over thirty years in Assisted Living, we have found many different situations where assisted living can benefit an elderly individual.

    We have residents that at home  they were not cooking for themselves or perhaps not eating or taking their medications properly. This becomes a concern for the family members.

    We have residents that were living by themselves and came to our facility because they wanted their life to be more socially active.

    No matter what the circumstances, if you feel that your loved one could benefit from a way of life that is geared towards maintaining independence but in a secure environment then assisted living may be just what you are looking for.

  • Questions to ask an Assisted Living Facility before making a decision.

    Even once you’ve done the hard work of talking it over with them, moving your elderly friend or family member into an Assisted Living facility can still be a daunting task. Depending on how much help they need you may need to do most or all of the talking. It can certainly be hard to know for sure what questions you should ask. You of course want to make a good choice. So just what kind of things do you need to know?

    Financial concerns are almost always involved when considering an Assisted Living facility. Some of the questions you’ll probably want to ask a representative are:

    What’s the cost?
    Will the admission agreement be monthly or yearly?
    Is there a large initial down-payment required, and, if so, what is your refund policy?
    What are the options for level of care and comfort and what does it cost for each?
    What is the history of rent increases at your facility?
    What’s included in the price? Meal service, cleaning service, maintenance, laundry, etc?

    Here are some additional questions you may want to ask:

    What levels of care do you offer?
    What does assisted care include?
    Do you offer either long-term or short-term stays?
    What happens if my friend or family member develops dementia or get more ill?
    If a resident is hospitalized how long will you hold his or her room?
    Are there visiting hours, and if so, what are they?
    Are there limitations on the age of residents?
    Can residents keep pets?
    Are residents expected to tip staff?
    Would you introduce me to a few residents?
    What kind of activities do you offer?

    These are just some ideas to get you started. If you’re involved in searching for an Assisted Living facility for your friend or family member chances are you’ve already spoken with a few facilities. Additionally, you almost certainly have questions unique to your particular situation. It’s always a good idea to take some notes.

  • The next steps once the decision for Assisted Living has been made. How do I tell my elderly friend or family member that they need Assisted Living?

    You’ve talked it over, considered it thoroughly, and you’ve come to the decision that an assisted living situation is right for you or your loved one. What’s next?

    Start with the basics.

    For a variety of reasons the first concern when looking for an assisted living situation is usually geographic. Perhaps there are family members involved who plan to visit the resident and would like to have them conveniently close. The resident might be interested in living in a quiet area, with vivid scenery. Air quality can be a concern. In any case, it is a good idea to figure out where exactly you’re willing to consider moving yourself or your loved one before you start your search.

    Everyone has different needs. Every family has different relationships, different financial status, etc. What works for one family can be impossible for another. Financial as well as medical and assistance requirements will be factors in your decision making. What kind of facilities are offered? What kind of care do they provide? How much and what type of care do you or your loved one need? How much are the costs? These are all questions you will need to address when choosing an assisted living home.

    The most important thing to remember is to have open conversation about it. Assisted living can be a very touchy subject. Be open and honest with your loved ones. Let them know that you are concerned first and foremost for everyone’s well being. Remember that it can be very damaging to someone’s self-esteem to admit that he or she can’t care for himself or herself anymore.

    If your elderly friend or family member is in need of assisted living it can be a very difficult thing to bring up. The easiest way to move someone into an assisted living situation is for him or her to admit the problem and willingly make arrangements. Many elderly people, for understandable reasons, are not happy to admit that they can no longer care for themselves adequately.

    This is a very delicate topic for many people, and it is important to keep this in mind while considering your own approach. Since the issue goes right to the core of people’s most private and personal lives, the problem needs to be taken very seriously and treated with kindness and confidentiality. Admitting to oneself and one’s family and friends that you are aware of your need for assisted living is a very big step, and it will require a great deal of comfort to do so.

    How can you help this along? Be kind, be respectful and be patient. People respond much better to kindness and respect than they do to abrupt, pointed remarks. Try to understand how difficult it must be to come to terms with this issue and the kind of emotional state it can bring about. Make your elderly friend or family member aware of the fact that you care about them and want the best for them and that your motivation for bringing the issue up with them is only out of concern for their well-being.

  • Handling the emotional transition of moving into an Assisted Living Home. How do I handle a loved one moving into Assisted Living?

    Moving can be an emotional experience. The saying, “there’s no place like home” often comes to mind when one considers the stress involved in adjusting to a new environment. That said, it’s important to remember when moving into an Assisted Living Residence that you share very much in common with the other residents. Those who are already living there have already gone through the moving process. While your own situation is certainly unique, the upheaval of moving can be difficult for everyone.

    Current residents can usually offer a lot of advice in these situations. It might be tough at first to approach people who you haven’t met yet, but remember that these people will be your co-residents, many of them will be your friends. They are almost always more than happy to help out a new-comer. Not only can they offer advice, but talking with them a bit may help you get acclimated to your new environment.

    At first you may feel compelled to spend most of your time in your apartment, however getting out and meeting your new neighbors and taking part in activities is widely said to be the best way to assimilate into your new home. The more you take part and mingle, the faster you will feel at home and become comfortable with your new life.

    Current residents of assisted living homes advise friends and family to continue to play an active role in your friend or loved one’s life. Be involved for the decision, the move, and everyday life at their new home. Meet and get to know their new friends and check out their favorite day to day activities. Be sure to remain positive and supportive as your loved one may feel uneasy about their new home at The Lake Shore at first. As they become more and more assimilated, they will for sure have lots to tell you – here at The Lake Shore, we encourage friends and family to call and visit often. Everyone is welcome!

    It’s common for family members to experience uneasy feelings just like the new resident themselves. This is totally normal and to be expected. As time passes you will both adjust and become more comfortable.
    Suggested Do’s for friends and family:

    Help your loved one pack the necessary items and then move into their new room. Your assistance will make the new apartment feel more like home!

    Be sure to stay very positive, supportive, and understanding. While The Lake Shore provides a beautiful, friendly, and welcoming environment, the first few weeks may still be tough after such a big move. Don’t worry, you’ll both adjust quickly.

    Be sure to visit often, we encourage you to be involved and enjoy your loved ones new home with them.

  • What to pack when moving into an Assisted Living Residence.

    One big issue residents have when they decide to move into an Assisted Living Residence is what to bring with them. Many facilities offer furnishings – sometimes there’s little to bring at all in the way of furnishings. That said, sometimes there are particular items you might like to bring along. Many residents say it’s good to plan ahead – visit the room where you’ll be living, take measurements, see what might fit in the room, where the outlets are located. This allows you to have a good idea of what you can and should bring when it comes time to sort through your things.

    If you aren’t sure what furnishings will be provided, representatives of the facility, will be happy to assist you. In most cases you’ll find that there isn’t much you need to bring along.

    It can be hard sometimes to part with the things you’ve had and used for many years – but it’s a good idea to stay positive. Have your family and friends help you organize your belongings and decide which you’d really need/want to have with you in the your new home. It also may be a good idea to put some things into storage or ask your family or friends to hold them for you if you aren’t sure yet what you’ll want or need when the time to move in comes along.

    Through it all try to remember to stay positive about the moving process. Think about all the fun times you’ll have and the friends you’ll make at your new home. There are sure to be loads of great activities to enjoy.

About The Lake Shore Assisted Living Facility:

  • Where is The Lake Shore located?

    The Lake Shore Assisted living facility is located right on one of Long Islands most beautiful natural locations – Lake Ronkonkoma.

    Lake Ronkonkoma is one of the largest lakes on Long Island and one of the most loved as well. A favorite of fishermen, nature enthusiasts, and outdoors-men. Many travel quite far to enjoy the peaceful beauty and fun on the shores of Lake Ronkonkoma.

    There really is no better place for an assisted living facility! You may fill your day with a long walk enjoying the scenery, or maybe you’d like to go fishing and impress your friends with the big catch of the day! However you choose to spend your day you can close each one with a beautiful sunset.

  • What Assisted Living services does The Lake Shore Assisted Living offer?

    The Lake Shore Assisted Living Facility offers many services. We provide three delicious meals each day as well as special out of the ordinary treats. We offer daily housekeeping and laundry service. Our residents can receive assistance with activities of daily living such as medication management, assistance with bathing, reminders for meals and activities, and visits from physicians.  We also have a recreation program that is exceptional with exciting trips and fun activites for everyone.

  • My elderly friend / family member needs medication every day – will The Lake Shore take care of it?

    Yes. The Lake Shore Assisted Living facility can provide assistance with medications or the resident can continue to take their medications on their own. Your physician can determine this with you prior to admission and indicate his determination on the medical evaluation.

    We even have a pharmacy that can deliver your medications.

  • If a Lake Shore Assisted Living resident undergoes surgery, does The Lake Shore offer special attention during the recuperation period?

    Yes. Our facility willingly cares for our residents that are recuperating from surgery or a procedure as long as the care level is within the scope of what we can and are able to care for. In most cases we will go to the hospital or short term care facility that our resident is in and can evaluate what their care needs will be so we can better assist them on their way to recovery.